This Woman Announced She Was Pregnant With A Daughter, And Her ‘Boy Mom’ Sister-In-Law Said It Wouldn’t Compare To Loving A Son

They might emotionally treat their sons as pseudo-husbands. They might post publicly about their jealousy of imaginary future girlfriends. Or, they might even talk about how much they love their sons more than their daughters!
“My husband and I left right after,” says Calligrapher, “and later that night my brother texted me telling me off. [He was saying] that his wife was just showing compassion and trying to be understanding; that just because I am sad about it doesn’t mean that she deserves my treatment of her.”
She adds, “I feel like I may have been a bit harsh on her, because my brother rarely gets upset with people, but he is very upset with me now.” N
Not only did commenters overwhelmingly agree that Calligrapher was not the asshole, but they also had a lot to say about her family:
“The poor daughter,” said u/Crazy_Past6259. “I would probably wonder if the daughter is being mistreated and [would] keep an eye on her.”
“I would consider discussing it with your brother: not in a way where he confronts your sister-in-law, but to check on his daughter, because your sister-in-law’s comment would make me worry that her daughter is receiving different treatment.
“Others have also pointed this out, but please do consider checking with your brother to make sure that the kids are not being inundated with this kind of thinking.”
“You should have asked your brother why he and your sister-in-law think you are sad over having a second daughter. Make them explain it,” said u/CalicoHippo.
In response, u/Lumpy_Marsupial_1559 wrote, “And be clear to brother: ‘Your wife absolutely specified that she loves your sons more and loves your daughter less. Did you know that? Does she act that way? Does your daughter know mommy loves her brothers more than mommy loves her?'”
Others validated Calligrapher’s feelings toward her sister-in-law and expressed concern for her brother’s kids.
One user, Adorable-Reactions887, wrote, “I probably wouldn’t have been as polite in vocalizing how weird her statement was. She wasn’t showing compassion. She was showing her ass and was upset that you didn’t agree with her whole sentiment of being a ‘boy mom’ like it’s the only thing worth being a parent for.”
“I feel for your niece, but I also worry that your nephews are going to have some major issues in later life with her.
“If your brother keeps on [about this], I would definitely ask him if he knows why you called her weird. Because as much as gender disappointment is a thing (and weird AF), you don’t feel that way, you’re not in denial, and you have nothing to feel sad OR bad about. If they feel some kind of way about having a daughter, then they both need to look at themselves rather than trying to force and push their way of thinking on you.”
I probably would have had stronger words to say to the sister-in-law, too. Let me know alllll your thoughts below; and if you have any stories about out-of-pocket things relatives have said to you, please feel free to share!